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5 most common regrets
The author of this article is Bronnie Wea, a woman who has worked in hospice for many years. Her duty is to alleviate the condition of dying patients, with whom she spent the last days and hours.
From her observations she made a list of the main regrets of people who came to the very edge of life.
In our damn time of total employment and life on the run, we all make the same mistake - succumbing to the pressure of commitment. And then we regret.
Too much work, too little rest, too superficially friends, too zealously break ourselves to become those who we are not in fact. Remember when was the last time you went home on time? When did you spend the weekend relaxing and relaxing with friends?
Maybe you seem to yourself to be an important and necessary professional, but sooner or later it will affect your attitude and efficiency at work.
This material is the regrets of people who have only a few days left to live, and maybe even minutes.
Read it and think: can you miss something important?
1.I regret that I did not have the courage to live a life that was right for me, and not the life that others expected of me.
This is the most common regret among people. When people realize that their life is almost over, they can look back and easily see which dreams they have left unfulfilled. Most people hardly tried to fulfill even half of their dreams and had to die, knowing that this was only due to a choice they made or did not make.
It is very important to try to realize at least some of your basic desires in your life path. From the moment you lose your health, it is already too late to do something. Health brings the freedom that very few people understand until they lose it.
2. I am sorry that I worked so much.
This feeling was in every male patient I cared about. They missed their youth and their relationships. Some women also expressed such regret. But since most of them were older, they were mostly not engaged in earning money for the family.All the men I worked with, deeply regretted that they had spent most of their lives on monotonous labor for their livelihood.
By simplifying your lifestyle, you can reduce the income requirements that you think you need. By creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities.
3. I am sorry that I did not have the courage to express my feelings.
Many people suppressed their feelings in order to maintain a certain relationship with others. As a result, they agreed to a mediocre existence and never became the way they wanted to see themselves. The emergence of many diseases was associated with the experienced feelings of bitterness and resentment.
We cannot control the reactions of others. Although people may initially respond to the changes you make in a relationship in an undesirable way for you, this ultimately raises the relationship to a new, more healthy level. The best way to eliminate unhealthy relationships from your life in one way or another.
4. I am sorry that I did not maintain relationships with my friends.
Often, these people really did not even realize the full benefits of maintaining contact with their old friends, until a few weeks left before their death, and it was not always possible to find them. Many were so immersed in their own lives that they allowed their friendship for many years to pass by them. There were many deep regrets that their friendship was not given so much time and effort that this friendship deserved. Everyone misses his friends when they die.
Anyone who leads an active lifestyle, tend to downplay the value of friendships. But when you are on the verge of death, the material aspects of life lose their meaning. Of course, people want their financial affairs to be in the greatest possible order. But neither money nor status ultimately retains its value. They want to bring some benefit to those they love. But usually they are already too sick and tired to somehow cope with this task.
5. I am sorry that I did not allow myself to be happier.
This kind of regret was surprisingly common. Many did not fully understand that their happiness was a matter of choice.They were subject to habits and established ideas. They were captured by the ‘comfort’ of their usual way of life. Because of the fear of change, they pretended to others and to themselves that they were content with their lives.